This Way to Joy

It's not just for kids . . . .

2012-02-03T12:22:00.001-05:00

Remember that feeling of being invincible, optimistic, wide-eyed, and carefree? Remember plotting your course around "the fun," when almost ever day was an adventure? Choose to feel it again! It never left you. It's still there. Don't let another year or ten or more go by before you recognize today's magic. Because even more so than back then, you are poised to have more fun than you have ever had before.

Oh yeah!

Life becomes easier when you're having fun.
The trick to blending work and play,
lies not in what you do,
but how you view what you do.
See work as play
and see play as important!

Having fun is why you're here! It's not frivolous; it's not just for kids; it's important! And the art of having fun lies in appreciating wherever you are. Its potential hides at work; it hides in routines; it even lurks in bumper-to-bumper traffic! It is a wonderful life and it offers endless opportunities for fun to those who seek even when they wouldn't think of seeking!

Happy Friday!

Here's hoping you find plenty of fun this weekend!

Life is not measured

by the games that are won,

but that you lived in the moment

and learned how to have fun.

Via

Choose Them Wisely

Mike Dooley

Next time you're stressed . . . .

2012-02-02T09:25:00.000-05:00

....take a step back, inhale and laugh.

Remember who are you and why you're here.

You're never given anything in this world

you can't handle.

Be strong, be flexible, love yourself,

and love others.

Always remember,

just keep moving forward.

Zebra Question . . . .

2012-02-01T08:44:00.002-05:00

I asked the zebra,

Are you black with white stripes?

Or white with black stripes?

And the zebra asked me,

Are you good with bad habits?

Or are you bad with good habits?

Are you noisy with quiet times?

Or are you quiet with noisy times?

Are you happy with some sad days?

Or are you sad with some happy days?

Are you neat with some sloppy days?

Or are you sloppy with some neat ways?

And on and on and on and on

And on and on he went.

I'll never ask a zebra

About stripes

Again.

by Shel Silverstein

Perhaps it's not such

a silly question after all!

Photo by Gerda van Schalkwyk

2012-01-31T09:05:00.000-05:00

Have you ever heard the wonderful silence just before the dawn? Or the quiet and calm just as a storm ends? Or perhaps you know the silence when you haven't the answer to a question you've been asked, or the hush of a country road at night, or the expectant pause of a room full of people when someone is just about to speak, or most beautiful of all, the moment after the door closes and you're alone in the whole house? Each one is different, you know, and all very beautiful if you listen carefully.

-Norton Juster

"Silences make the

real conversations between friends.

Not the saying

but the never needing to say

is what counts."

-Margaret Lee Runbeck

Keep your eyes peeled . . . .

2012-01-30T07:43:00.001-05:00

How would paradise look to you? Would there be lots of smiles and laughter, abundance and plenty, kindness and thanksgiving, peace and goodwill, health and harmony, love and joy? Would there be a worry in sight? Did you notice that all of those elements, every singe one of them, exist on earth, here and now? Moreover, is there a single thing in that list that hasn't, at one point or another, existed in your life and times? There's no denying it; at some point in your life you've touched paradise. And chances are just as good, if you keep your eyes peeled as this week unfolds, you'll notice that you're there right now.

This is as good as it gets.

You make the difference.

Via Mike Dooley

Photo by
Joanna Blusiewicz

2012-01-27T08:42:00.000-05:00

Happy Friday!

(Choose to look closer this weekend!)

2012-01-26T09:07:00.001-05:00

2012-01-25T07:57:00.000-05:00

Are you always running late? . . . .

2012-01-24T13:41:00.001-05:00

You know you need to be somewhere in an hour, but you always end up losing track of time, often because you think you can squeeze in one more thing before you leave. It never fails. It took you longer than you thought it would, traffic's bad, and now you're late. Aaargh! It's such a common stressor!

It is always my intention to be on time; early as a matter of fact, but it doesn't always work out that way. It helps when I put myself in the shoes of the person I'm meeting. I imagine how they feel, sitting there waiting for me. I know their time is just as important as mine, so I don't want to seem disrespectful. Not to mention that it may look as if you're completely unorganized. If you're habitually late, it can even make you look selfish, and can begin to damage your relationships. Now, with the luxury of texting, do we feel like we're off the hook if we can send a quick note saying we're on our way? It's true that it can relieve a little bit of anxiousness, but for me, I can still feel my heart rate begin to rise when I can't be there on time.

We live in a busy society....that's no secret, but I'm thinking we're just overbooked! Instead of scheduling 10 things a day.....try 8. Remind yourself of the reality of just how much you can truly get done.......productively. Allow more "in-between" space when scheduling your day. Assume everything will take longer than planned, because most likely, it will. Give it a try. You may even be early for a change! You'll be able to catch your breath, and that's always an awesome feeling!

"How did it get so late so soon?"

-Dr. Seuss

2012-01-23T08:37:00.000-05:00

2012-01-20T11:06:00.001-05:00

What is it about New Year's resolutions that cause people to discard them so quickly? Is it because they feel it's just another promise they make to themselves that they know will be broken by the time March rolls around? It's so self-defeating to think of them that way! I came across a quote recently that said, "A New Year's resolution is something that goes in one year and out the other." Oh my goodness, that is SO true for SO many. I've already noticed that the gym isn't quite as busy as it was on January 2nd! But it doesn't have to be that way! I have a sign that I keep in my sight that says, "Do something today that your future self will thank you for." I love that! That is such a huge motivator for me because I KNOW that "that future" will be here before I know it! You have to at least BEGIN to do something differently if you want change in your life. How can your life be better a year from now if you don't even get started? Doing nothing is the easy route. Do you come home tired every night and end up on the sofa? Don't do that! Starting today, don't do that! As someone who exercises a minimum of 5 days a week, I too am often tired when I begin my workout, but I promise, it doesn't take long before I am feeling so much better, completely energized, and mentally stimulated. Require more of yourself! This much I know.......nobody's going to do it for you. Be accountable for the decisions you make every day. Dr. Phil McGraw says....."Starting now, begin each and every day of your life with the question: 'What can I do today to make my life better?' Ask it, answer it, and then do it, every day."

If you continue to do what you've always done,

you will continue to have what you've always had.

If you do different,

you will have different.

Happy Friday!

Have an awesome weekend!

I believe in you . . . .

2012-01-19T08:24:00.002-05:00

Those 4 words are such a gift! It is the best way to let someone know you're pulling for them, you're proud of them, and you believe in them! It is a treasured expression of faith and confidence in the human spirit. Spoken softly and sincerely from the heart, those four words or their equivalent have probably sparked more dreams, ideas, and discoveries......awakened more artists, inventors, and leaders.....united more friends, families, and colleagues....and inspired more companies, communities, and countries than any others. Each of us knows how it feels to dream and to doubt. Stephen Crane once wrote, "Our doubts are our prison guards." What a gift to be able to release someone from the confines of doubt, and to give them hope!

Someone saw something in you once. Whoever it was had the wisdom and foresight to see your potential, to bet on your future, to catch hold of your dream. In the game of life, maybe we should always be strong enough and sure enough to go it alone. Maybe it shouldn't matter whether someone else believes in us or not, but it does. There will always be lots of experts who can give us all the reasons why we shouldn't, we won't or we can't. That's why we cherish those rare individuals who are there to remind us why we should, why we will, why we can.

From the book

I Believe in You

by Dan Zadra

"People must believe in each other,

and feel that it can be done

and must be done;

in that way we are enormously strong.

We must keep up each other's courage."

-Vincent van Gogh

"Foolish, selfish people are always thinking of themselves and the result is always negative. Wise persons think of others, helping them as much as they can, and the result is happiness. Love and compassion are beneficial both for you and others. Through your kindness to others, your mind and heart will open to peace."

-Dalai Lama

2012-01-16T08:55:00.000-05:00

2012-01-13T08:03:00.000-05:00

So.....

what are you waiting for?

What's your rush? . . . .

2012-01-12T08:40:00.002-05:00

End-of-the-day questions . . . .

2012-01-11T07:42:00.001-05:00

Asking ourselves questions and answering them honestly is something we can all do to understand ourselves better, and to help us realize that we can do SOMETHING every day to make the world a better place. But sometimes we get all wrapped up in our own little world.....walking through our day with blinders on. It doesn't take a lot. Asking ourselves these simple questions can help bring awareness as to how we are spending our day. Are we doing what we can to be kind? To forgive? To try a little harder? Below is a quiz from Dr. Leo Buscaglia's book Born for Love that will help point out ways in which you can show more love to others. Remember, you can re-take this quiz any time. This is one quiz you can never fail!

Is anyone a little happier because I came along today?

Yes___ No___

Did I leave any concrete evidence of my kindness, any sign of my love?

Yes___ No___

Did I try to think of someone I know in a more positive light?

Yes___ No___

Did I help someone to feel joy, to laugh, or at least, to smile?

Yes___ No___

Have I attempted to remove a little of that rust that is corroding my relationships?

Yes___ No___

Have I gone through the day without fretting over what I don't have and celebrating the things I do have?

Yes___ No___

Have I forgiven others for being less than perfect?

Yes___ No___

Have I forgiven myself?

Yes___ No___

Have I learned something new about life, living or love?

Yes___ No___

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

-Leo F. Buscaglia

2012-01-10T10:58:00.001-05:00

2012-01-09T08:39:00.000-05:00

In life,

you can only ever be scared,

when you believe in limits.

You can only ever feel lonely,

when you stop doing things.

You can only ever become bored,

when you no longer follow your heart.

And you can only ever get overwhelmed,

when you think the illusions are real.

Whew!

Who knew it could be so easy

to get back on track!

Via Notes from The Universe

Too much stuff . . . .

2012-01-06T11:54:00.005-05:00

I'm in the process of collecting winter coats right now for my favorite local charity, and as I'm cleaning out my closet, I'm asking myself, "how much stuff do we really need?" We tell ourselves that we might need it someday, but that "someday" never comes. I mean honestly, if we don't absolutely love it, or if it doesn't serve a purpose, why are we hanging on to these things? So I've made a decision. I'm going to spend the first quarter of 2012 getting rid of things in my home that I will no longer need "someday."

So, I'm heading into my kitchen this weekend to get rid of any small appliances that I no longer use, all those plastic food containers, (I've switched to all glass anyway), pots, pans, dishes or cookbooks that are just sitting on the shelf. I mean, really.......I go online to search for recipes! I don't need all those cookbooks!

I want to live lean and clean! I want to simplify, and I can feel my mind clearing already!

Are you overwhelmed with too much stuff?

"The ability to simplify
means to eliminate the unnecessary
so that the necessary may speak."

-Hans Hofmann

2012-01-05T08:17:00.000-05:00

It works! . . . .

2012-01-04T07:57:00.002-05:00

I hope this doesn't sound corny.....

We all have grumpy days, right? I had a grumpy day yesterday. I can't even tell you why. I just woke up that way. I went to yoga, which was awesome as always, so I felt a bit better, but still wasn't feeling myself. After yoga, I hopped on my elliptical to get my cardio session in, turned on my favorite music, and (okay, here's the corny part), I reached as deep as I could and mustered up the biggest smile. My elliptical is surrounded by mirrors, so I looked in the mirror, and smiled. Not just a grin, but a huge, happy, ear-to-ear smile. The more I smiled the happier I got! I could feel my whole outlook changing. My self-inflicted misery disappeared! I ended up laughing at my grumpiness, asking myself...."what's your problem? Get over it!" What a difference it made in my entire outlook, and the rest of my day. I apologize if that sounds corny, but it works. I promise.....it really works!

......and it feels good too!

"Sometimes your joy is

the source of your smile,

but sometimes your smile

can be the source of your joy."

-Thich Nhat Hanh

2012-01-03T07:47:00.000-05:00

2012-01-01T00:25:00.000-05:00

2011-12-30T09:21:00.000-05:00

Happy Friday my friends!

Have a lovely weekend,

and

Happy New Year!!!

xo, Connie

2011-12-29T08:11:00.000-05:00

Make an effort . . . .

2011-12-28T08:56:00.003-05:00

The countdown begins!.....3 days left until the New Year. It's a tradition for many to stop and examine what's working in their life, and what's not. Do you find yourself taking a closer look? What changes, if any, are you thinking about making? Personally I feel that changes can be made any day of the year, or any moment for that matter......not just when the calendar flips to a New Year. But for the sake of tradition, I do find myself asking a few questions. It just seems like an appropriate time to re-group, and to take an honest look at what changes can be made to enhance or enrich our lives. Are we spending time with people who are good for us? Are we good for them? Are we healthy? Could we be healthier? Are we giving back? Do we give at all? New Year's resolutions don't have to be huge life changing affairs. But we could at least promise ourselves that we'll do SOMEthing, as small as that may be, to better ourselves and the people around us. It's not that difficult. The details of our life could change, and most likely WILL change, by this time next year. I know we can't control everything, but if we knew we could control at least a part of that, why wouldn't we make an effort to do what we can to make it better? Make a promise to yourself that you will put forth the effort that it takes to do something that will enhance your life. If you desire something, find the energy to input the effort! How bad do you want it?

(Hint....I've found that adding a bit more humor to your life makes it easier!)

"Rules for Happiness:

something to do,

someone to love,

something to hope for."

2011-12-26T12:52:00.000-05:00

Whew! I'm putting my feet up today!

Hope you are too!

Have a lovely day!

xo, Connie

2011-12-24T08:31:00.000-05:00

2011-12-23T08:53:00.001-05:00

"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, words, and deeds return to us, sooner or later, with astounding accuracy."

-Florence Shinn

Photo of Cate Blanchett

via 2c

2011-12-22T08:08:00.001-05:00

Giving, without expectations . . . .

2011-12-21T09:33:00.000-05:00

Have you ever received an anonymous gift? As much as I love anonymous gift giving, I'm always taken back when I receive one! It doesn't happen very often, but when it does, it warms my heart. I received one yesterday and I'm already excited to do the same for someone else. It's such a simple, gratifying thing to do! Would you like to join me? Let's deliver holiday smiles through the act of giving......without expecting anything in return. When you give with the full intention of expecting nothing in return, you receive the ultimate reward....knowing that, on that day, you made one person a little happier. How great is that? What a perfect day to be able to do something for someone who cannot repay you, simply because they have no idea who to repay! Give because you want to, and for no other reason. Do it because it feels good. Henry Drummond once said that as you look back on your life, the moments that will stand out are the moments when you have done things for others.

"Think of giving,

not as a duty,

but as a privilege."

-John D. Rockefeller, Jr.

2011-12-20T08:06:00.000-05:00

It's the final week before Christmas......how are you doing? If you're not quite ready, hang in there! It will all come together. And guess what? If it doesn't go exactly as planned, that's okay too!

Stop worrying, and enjoy!

2011-12-19T07:52:00.000-05:00

A sweet way to say thanks . . . .

2011-12-16T09:05:00.000-05:00

Christmas is approaching, all the gifts will be open soon, and it will be time to say thanks. Here is a sweet, thoughtful, and easy way to say thank you to the giver. (I found this wonderful idea at HowDoesShe.com.)

Have your child make a Thank You drawing.
Take a photo of your child holding both the drawing and the present received.
Email the photo to the giver!

How sweet and easy is that?

I don't know about you, but I would LOVE to receive this kind of thank you! By the way, there are so many great ideas on this site. I love the neighbor Christmas gift ideas! If you have a minute, take a peek.

"No duty is more urgent

than that of returning thanks."

-Unknown

2011-12-15T07:32:00.000-05:00

Break out of your comfort zone . . . .

2011-12-14T08:52:00.000-05:00

We are told over and over again to seek comfort. Comfort is good, right? Society encourages it. I encourage it as well. But I like to use my comfort zone as a reward, not a place to retreat to because I'm afraid to venture into a new place, or take on a new challenge. Comfort zones are awesome! They're familiar, and they're safe. But they can become stifling if we automatically retreat to them just to avoid a new challenge. First of all, remember that challenges are opportunities for growth! They test us and makes us better. There is no question that it can be a scary thing to take on a new challenge. But seriously, what is the worst thing that can happen? Is the worst case scenario really that bad? Messing up a few times isn't that big of a deal. We all make mistakes. Personally, I think it's a bigger mistake to find ourselves in a rut due to fear. We miss out on amazing opportunities. Opportunities that could open your eyes to new and exciting things. Don't allow yourself to get trapped in a zone that hinders your growth. There's a marvelous world out there! Check it out!

Today is a perfect day to start!

Off you go!

"One can choose to go back toward safety
or forward toward growth.
Growth must be chosen again and again;

fear must be overcome again and again."

-Abraham Maslow

2011-12-13T07:27:00.000-05:00

Pass the good stuff on . . . .

2011-12-12T08:20:00.002-05:00

Good morning, and happy Monday! Do you have a busy week planned? How about socially? Are you planning any get-togethers with friends? You do know that the people you spend your time with will change your life in one way or another, right? Are you hanging out with cynics who deflate all your hopeful aspirations? There's no question that they'll try to take you down with them. So why would you allow these people to drain all of your good energy? They'll stifle your optimism in no time! If you are choosing to hang out with people who continue to suck the good stuff right out of you, you can change that! Make a decision to be more careful about who you spend your time with. It's difficult enough already to deal with life's stressors, so choose to surround yourself with supportive people who encourage you. Leave the pessimists and doubters behind. You owe it to yourself to surround yourself with happy, successful people who want the same for you. You simply cannot replace the benefits that you'll receive. Then......please.....pass the good stuff on! Make a decision to do the same for someone else.

"You need to be aware of what others are doing, applaud their efforts, acknowledge their successes, and encourage them in their pursuits. When we all help one another, everybody wins."

-Jim Stovall

Today is . . . .

2011-12-09T08:44:00.000-05:00

For the third straight year, Macy's is celebrating generosity and giving throughout the holiday season by declaring today, December 9th, as National Believe Day. Children across the country are invited to drop off their letters (stamped and addressed to Santa at the North Pole) in the "Believe" mailboxes at any Macy's store. For each letter received, Macy's will contribute up to $1 million to the Make-A-Wish Foundations. However, TODAY, Macy's has increased the donation to $2 per letter received in celebration of National Believe Day. It is their goal to inspire others to act in generous and kindhearted ways.

Write your letter today, telling Santa why YOU believe, and drop it off at your nearest Macy's. Together, Macy's and the Make-A-Wish Foundation will help grant more than 55 wishes across the country to create a day of Wishes Across America for children with life-threatening medical conditions. Wishes Across America was created to inspire others to embrace the spirit of goodwill and make a difference in their own community.

Write a letter to Santa

telling him why YOU believe

and drop it off TODAY!

2011-12-08T07:23:00.000-05:00

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Photo of Norah Jones via Pinterest

2011-12-06T08:09:00.000-05:00

Self-imposed deadlines . . . .

2011-12-05T08:03:00.004-05:00

Last evening I was going over my to-do list for the week and it was a little daunting. Doable, but daunting. Believe it or not, for me, the best part about having a list like this is having a deadline. I love and need deadlines, or I procrastinate. There is no doubt that I am the type of person who will put off today what I know can be done tomorrow. If it can wait, it waits. However, give me deadline and I'm on it. . . . with pleasure, actually. I am at my best under pressure. So just tell me when you need it, and you got it. It is shocking to me how much can be completed when you think it needs to be "turned in." But give me all day to do an assignment that can wait, and it'll take me 3 days to do it. So it's good for me to set self-imposed deadlines.

Bed needs to be made by 8:00.
Dishwasher emptied by 8:20.
Daily workout must be done by 9:45.
Dry cleaning picked up by 11:20.
All mail opened, and either shredded or organized by 12:15.
Bills paid and office organized by 1:30.
Online Christmas orders placed by 2:15.
Laundry is due at 3:00.
That shirt......ironed by 3:45.

Actually, I know that sounds weird, and realistically I don't spend every moment watching the clock, but I think you get my point. I love the pleasure of completed tasks. Leaving things undone is a stressor for me, so in order to put things behind me, I need the pressure of a deadline. And.... did I tell you? I also self-impose rewards! Get 'er done Con., and you get to soak in a hot bubble bath, or pour yourself a glass of wine, or even better.......both!

"The ultimate inspiration is the deadline."

-Nolan Bushnell

There is nothing like reaching the end of the day and enjoying that feeling of completed tasks. It's amazing how much better that hot bath feels when you can not only let your body relax, but your mind as well.

Happy Monday!

I hope you have a productive week!

2011-12-01T07:13:00.001-05:00

A great day . . . .

2011-11-30T09:30:00.003-05:00

Yesterday was such a great day! I started my day with yoga which always makes me feel so refreshed, enlightened, strong, and s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d. It was just what I needed to get a jump on what was shaping up to be a very busy day of errands. Even though it was raining and gloomy most of the day, it changed to snow just as I walked out of the grocery store and loaded my car. Our first, beautiful, significant snowfall of the season! My Christmas lights are up, and when I pulled into my driveway last night, it was absolutely beautiful! I stopped before pulling into my garage and just sat there, smiling. I was feeling the beauty of Christmas!

It looked and felt like this........

AND.......

My beautiful, sweet nephew was born! His name is Arie. Isn't he precious? I can't wait to meet him today!

So needless to say, I had a very productive day, which is always good for me. And that, in addition to the news of my new nephew was all I needed to make my heart sing. Gotta love days like these!

"Never regret a day in your life.

Good days give you happiness

and bad days give you experience.

Both are essential in life."

-Unknown

I hope YOU have a great day today!

2011-11-28T08:10:00.000-05:00

Via Notes from The Universe

Here it comes . . . .

2011-11-25T10:02:00.001-05:00

As we struggle with shopping lists, invitations, crowded malls, obligations, and a huge to-do list, it is good to be reminded to slow down when things get hectic. You don't have to say yes to everything! You don't have to find the "perfect gift" or plan the "perfect party." It's better to lower your expectations and be surprised when things turn out better than planned, than to have expectations that are too high, only to be let down when things don't prove to be perfect. Web MD says....."shorten your list of holiday to-dos and relax your inner Martha." Have realistic expectations when entering the shopping mall, plan ahead, stick to your budget, and remember that you won't be able to control everything. And you certainly won't be able to control the amount of holiday stress that others are experiencing. But you can control how prepared you are, and how you react to stressful situations. Stress believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important. Just take a step back, regroup, and breathe.

Let's do this......sit quietly and observe. When we're overly busy and stressed out, we overlook just how beautiful the Christmas atmosphere really is. See that? It's a beautiful thing.

I hope you feel how beautiful

Christmas really is.

2011-11-24T07:57:00.000-05:00

Happy Thanksgiving, my friends!

xo, Connie

Gratitude . . . .

2011-11-23T10:40:00.004-05:00

With Thanksgiving approaching tomorrow, many of us will be spending time with family. It promises to be a wonderful day of plenty, with lots of good food, football, family and relaxation. It's a day off to celebrate the bounty, and to remind ourselves of all we are grateful for, so I'm hoping that we don't forget to count our blessings. Here's an easy one.....how about being grateful that Thanksgiving is not a particularly expensive holiday? There are no gifts involved, so we should remember to be thankful for that! I hope you are grateful for the person who is kind enough to cook the annual bird for you. All of the images of a perfect turkey are golden brown on the outside, and juicy on the inside, so it's quite possible that the person preparing your meal is feeling a little bit of pressure! Don't forget to thank them when you are enjoying your feast!

Did you know that being grateful is good for your health? People who are habitually grateful tend to be more optimistic, they enjoy life to a higher degree, and they appreciate things with little effort. It's an amazing resource that we all have, and we can use it to improve our quality of life! So when the holiday is over, try to remember to make gratefulness a part of your daily life. Counting your blessings doesn't just cheer you up -- it can improve your health and well being.

"Nothing is more honorable than a grateful heart."

-Seneca

Luck, fate & more . . . .

2011-11-22T08:46:00.000-05:00

"I'm a survivor. I'm a woman with tremendous inner resources and resilience. I care about people. I believe in 'Do unto others as you would have others do unto you,' and I live by that. I am becoming authentic, and that's important to me. I have surpassed both my parents in terms of emotional stability, happiness and well-being. And I'm a lucky woman. I've deserved my luck."

-Jane Fonda, actress

"I never regret anything. Because every little detail of your life is what made you into who you are in the end."

-Drew Barrymore, actress

"I don't know what to make of fate. I certainly don't think you can predetermine things. It feels like if you go out of your way to try to make something happen, it rarely does. But if you allow for good things to happen, them seem to. I think a lot of that is more perception, you know? A lot of people would take getting rear-ended in their car as an example of why their life continues to be one road block after another, and I think a different person can see that same fender bender and be grateful it wasn't worse. That allows them an opportunity to learn something from it--sort of take some sort of positive element from that. I think if you try to angle your life in those ways, then fate, destiny, karma open itself up to you and allows for more growth."

-Neil Patrick Harris, actor

"I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn't been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn't have been lucky."

-Oprah Winfrey

"You know it's love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you're not part of their happiness."

-Julia Roberts, actress

2011-11-21T07:59:00.003-05:00

...are we lucky or what?

Happy Monday, my friends.

Make it a great week!

xo, Connie

2011-11-18T08:54:00.000-05:00

Then know.....

2011-11-17T08:20:00.002-05:00

"Adults are always
asking little kids

what they want to be
when they grow up

because they're always
looking for ideas."

-Paula Poundstone

Prioritize, and make the most of your time . . . .

2011-11-16T09:36:00.000-05:00

"You rarely have time for everything

you want in this life,

so you have to make choices,

and hopefully your choices

can come from

a deep sense of who you are."

-Fred Rogers

We're all asked to do a lot of things. We probably say yes to things that we wish we hadn't, and with the holiday's approaching, it could only get worse. When someone calls and asks you to make 900 brownies in the shape of a Christmas tree, put them on hold, and make a decision right then if that particular activity will add to, or take away from what matters most to you. Prioritize. You have a choice. If you truly care about why Mrs. Cleaver needs 900 brownies for her upcoming meeting, then offer to purchase your share and drop them off. If not, kindly decline, then enjoy having more spare time for the things that matter to you. If you are saying yes just to please others, ask yourself this question....Why are we so willing to disappoint ourselves by not following through on the things that are important to us? Decide how you wish to spend your time, and stick with it. You will be amazed at how much better you feel and how much more energy you have for the things that truly matter.

"The main thing is to keep the main thing

the main thing."

-Larry James

A recipe for you . . . .

2011-11-15T07:51:00.001-05:00

With Thanksgiving quickly approaching, I am beginning to plan my meal, and get my grocery list together. I love the traditional Thanksgiving menu which consists of a beautiful Roasted Turkey & Gravy, Cranberry, Stuffing, Mashed Potatoes, Sweet Potatoes with pecans, Corn, and Green Beans, but I always find myself looking for a new dessert, just to shake it up a bit. Last year I made this Pumpkin Trifle, and it was such a hit! I had guests who were looking for the traditional piece of pumpkin pie, however, once they tried this, they loved it, and didn't miss the pie. And here's a bonus for you....it only has 194 calories for a 3/4 cup serving! Hmmm, maybe I shouldn't have told you that! No fair having pre-conceived reservations before you try it! I promise....THIS IS GOOD! I don't know about you, but as much as I watch what I eat, I don't hold back on Thanksgiving, which means I probably take in a hefty amount of calories on that day, so when it comes to dessert, if I can find something this good with a reasonable amount of calories, I figure I'm just that much better off. Give this recipe a try.....you won't be disappointed.

Pumpkin Trifle

1 package (14-1/2 ounces) gingerbread cake mix

1-1/4 cups water

1 egg

4 cups cold fat-free milk

4 packages (1 ounce each) sugar-free instant butterscotch pudding mix

1 can (15 ounces) solid-pack pumpkin

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/4 teaspoon each ground ginger, nutmeg and allspice

1 carton (12 ounces) frozen reduced-fat whipped topping, thawed

In a large bowl, combine the cake mix, water and egg, beat on low speed for 30 seconds. Beat on medium for 2 minutes. Pour into an ungreased 8" square baking pan.

Bake at 350º for 35-40 minutes or until a toothpick inserted near the center comes out clean. Cool for 10 minutes before removing from pan to a wire rack. When completely cooled, crumble the cake. Set aside 1/4 cup crumbs for garnish.

In a large bowl, whisk milk and pudding mixes for 2 minutes or until slightly thickened. Let stand for 2 minutes or until soft-set. Stir in pumpkin and spices until well blended.

In a trifle bowl or 3-1/2 qt. serving bowl, layer a fourth of the cake crumbs, half of the pumpkin mixture, a fourth of the cake crumbs and half of the whipped topping. Repeat layers. Garnish with reserved cake crumbs. Serve immediately or refrigerate until serving. Yield: 18 servings

Nutritional Analysis: One serving (3/4 cup) equals 194 calories, 6g fat (3g saturated fat), 13mg cholesterol, 451mg sodium, 31g carbohydrate, 1g fiber, 4g protein.

Diabetic Exchanges: 2 starch, 1 fat.

"Dessert -- it fills the cracks in the heart.

So long pain!"

Author unknown

Recipe & Photo

via Taste of Home

Ever wish for do-over days? . . . .

2011-11-14T07:01:00.001-05:00

You know,

hit the reset button and

give 'er another shot?

Cool.

Will today work?

(They're all do-over days.)

Via

Notes from The Universe

2011-11-10T07:38:00.000-05:00

Smile, laugh, howl and enjoy ---

life is a celebration

and you're invited!

A sense of humor is essential for good health and abundant living. There is not one shred of evidence that life is serious. It is something to be savored and treasured, rather than endured. Obstacles come and obstacles go, they are simply there for us to learn and to grow. So look around, funny things are everywhere. The less you laugh, the less you live.

"Laughter is the shock absorber

that eases the blows of life."

Live, Love, Laugh & Learn

2011-11-09T07:48:00.001-05:00

Let's be realistic here. You won't drop

two jean sizes in one day. You won't lose

fifty pounds in one month. You're going

to binge every now and then. You will

go a day or two without working out.

Your weight is going to fluctuate here

and there. You're going to try new

techniques, and they're not going to

work. You're a human being. You're

going to fail. But nothing great is ever

accomplished without a few obstacles.

2011-11-08T07:26:00.000-05:00

-Aurelius

The Golden Rule (applies to you too) . . . .

2011-11-07T08:37:00.003-05:00

It's simple and powerful. .... "Treat others as you want to be treated." We've got that by now, right? So, do you treat yourself with the same respect? Sounds pretty simple. We all have fairly good intentions when it comes to taking care of ourselves. We try to eat healthy, try to exercise, and try to give ourselves positive strokes. But unfortunately, we so often listen to the voice in our head that beats us up. Whether you realize it or not, when you stop giving good to yourself, you stop giving good to others. Surrounding ourselves with negative people can be one huge reason we so often feel pessimistic! It's easy to forget how much these people influence our own actions. I guarantee you, these are the people who are draining all of your good energy! Don't let them. And yes, they are most likely the reason you may not be giving the best of yourself to others. We become the people we hang out with. Psychologists have proven that "habitual association" with critical, complaining people can be enough to sabotage all of our opportunities for success. So stop! You owe it to yourself to enjoy all the benefits that positive people can give you. They believe in you! They WILL inspire you!....and they can do so much more for you than you realize. They help you put forth the best of who you are. I promise, life will give you back everything you give to it, so give good! It really is simple and powerful. Please remember, when you make feeling good a priority, you are not the only one who benefits! When you are giving the best of yourself, and it is such a gift.

"The Golden Rule is of no use to you whatsoever

unless you realize it is your move."

-Frank Crane

Photo of Melissa Benoist

taken by Nick Vorderman

Totally crazy . . . .

2011-11-04T08:38:00.000-04:00

Believe in yourself

and you will see

how happy and free

you were meant to be!

And the totally crazy thing is that when you do believe in yourself, things, material things, and dreams, without explanation, begin showing up in your life. You see, when you truly believe in yourself, you stop living in the past and your regrets and sorrows disappear. You stop worrying about the future and your doubts and fears fall away. You stop focusing on what you're not and begin seeing all that you already are. Then, with your mind as calm as the glassy sea, you effortlessly think thoughts of gratitude for the present and for your dreams tomorrow. These thoughts will then do what all thoughts must do: strive to become the things and events of your life. But this time around, now that you believe in yourself, they'll have much less competition.

Totally crazy.

Happy Friday!

Have a wonderful weekend!

From the book

Choose Them Wisely

Setting limits and finding the right balance . . . .

2011-11-03T11:56:00.003-04:00

Modern life makes us feel as if we can be everywhere and do everything. We have been given all the magical tools to believe it's possible, with cell phones, email and social networks. I understand these tools are there to make our lives easier and to be more effective. However, they were supposed to allow us to have MORE time! I believe it has become quite the contrary. We are spending more time with these "magical tools" and we are now wasting more time than ever. We feel the need to respond to everything and everyone. Are we accepting new "friends" on Facebook or Google+ just so we can take a peek into their lives without any sort of real connection? That's a sad and strange thought! My husband once said when referring to friend requests on Facebook "if they haven't been to my house for a cocktail, they're not my friend." How great is that? But as much as he wants to stick with that rule, he feels a bit of guilt when he doesn't respond to an old high school buddy. At what point do we stop responding to everyone and everything? How do we use these magical tools the way there were intended?.......which is to be more effective?

I don't have an answer..... I am just as guilty as the next person when it comes to immersing myself into our modern world of devices, but I also enjoy it, and Bertrand Russell once said, "The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time." So now I'm confused, and when I'm confused, I always revert back to that "balance" thing. So I'll choose to find that right balance, set my own limits, and try to make the most of my time. How do YOU make it all work for you?

2011-11-01T08:32:00.000-04:00

Sometimes when you've had a difficult day, met difficult people, been let down, disappointed, or heartbroken, it's easy to completely forget the most important thing of all.....you're alive.

You're alive, and you will be really happy again, (just in case you're wondering).

Who loves ya?

Have a great day, my friends.

Via Notes from The Universe

2011-10-31T08:18:00.004-04:00

I had "off-the-charts" fun this past weekend dressed as a 60's go-go girl! (I now know why they say blondes have more fun!) Goodness gracious....all these years I've chosen to not dress up; to just enjoy everyone else in their costumes.....never again. I had so much fun; danced my heart out, and probably burned more calories than a black cat chasing your neighborhood ghoul! So much for that relaxing weekend post that I was preaching about on Friday! Haha!

Enjoy, my friends...and be safe!

"Fun is good."

-Dr. Seuss

You've earned it . . . .

2011-10-28T09:02:00.001-04:00

Take a deep breath. It's been a crazy week and we all need to decompress. Don't let the stresses of the week overpower you. It's the weekend, and it's time to make room for relaxation. If your passion and joy went by the wayside this week due to stress, you owe it to yourself to bring the pleasures and energies that feed your soul, back into your life. Do it for your own well-being......for health's sake! Learning how to relax is so important! It brings a balance in our life that allows us to be more productive, and helps to keep burn out, stress-related illness and insomnia at bay. I mentioned in an earlier post about how it's so easy for us to fill our free time with errands and busy work, so the first thing we need to do is recognize that we need to make time to relax. It's not always necessary to fill our time busying ourselves with things that can wait! If you don't make the time, it won't happen. I promise, Monday will show up soon enough. C'mon.....you've earned it. Take a few minutes to regain that sense of peace that you so deserve. Slow down. Restore your body with healthy choices. Feed your soul with the things that matter most to you. Take a long walk. Listen to your favorite music. Pamper yourself. Take a long, hot bath. Lose yourself in a good book. Smile, or better yet, laugh! S-t-r-e-t-c-h. Find your personal paradise, and enjoy.

"Sometimes the most important thing

in a whole day

is the rest we take between breaths."

-Etty Hillesum

Happy Friday my friends.

Have a wonderful (and relaxing) weekend!

2011-10-27T07:42:00.000-04:00

Photo by

Ken Gallagher

2011-10-26T08:16:00.001-04:00

I do believe that if people would just start by saying

"it's fun," when it seems hard;

"I'm happy," when they seem sad;

and "I know," when it seems as if they don't,

they'd finally discover

that it really is,

they really are,

and they always have.

Works for me,

The Universe

(The Universe really does rock!)

2011-10-25T07:32:00.001-04:00

Photo of Marilyn Monroe via Pinterest

Go there! . . . .

2011-10-24T11:50:00.002-04:00

Let's just say that you were given the chance to go anywhere in the world, money is not an issue, and you're leaving tomorrow ......... where would you go? If you could throw caution to the wind, would you jet set to the South of France, Tahiti or Morocco? New York City, Hawaii or Greece? If you're a foodie, maybe it's Rome where you can indulge in fresh-made pasta & sauces, or enjoy amazing pizza.

Please don't think that these types of vacations only happen to others. Living the life of your dreams is for YOU just as much as it is for the next person! But first you have to stop the negative thoughts such as "It'll never happen." Listen....you can't reach a goal that you don't have! Decide that you can make your dream vacation a reality, and start today. Set the goal and work towards it. I promise, IT CAN HAPPEN FOR YOU!

Start by deciding where it is that you'd like to go. Stop by your local bookstore and pick up a travel magazine.
Cut out pictures of your dream destination.
Hang this visual image somewhere where you can see it regularly. The simple act of converting your dream to a visual image has a way of stimulating creative thoughts, and that's what will bring you closer to it becoming a reality.
Share your dream with someone that you know will support & encourage you, not someone who will discredit your thoughts.
Take action. If it means you have to make small changes in your life to reach your goal, then do it! But think of the process of fulfilling your dream as an adventure, not a chore.
Be persistent. There are lots of options as to how you might achieve your goal.....if one doesn't work, go to the next one.
Be patient. Dreams don't just happen overnight. Never give up.

"Let's go out and let stories happen to us. Let's work them, water them....till they bloom"

-Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Photo by Greg Bajor via flickr

Pure Pleasures of Orange . . . .

2011-10-21T09:42:00.004-04:00

Pumpkins.

Oven baked sweet potato fries.

Recipe here.

Autumn leaves.

Photo by Joel deWaard

No-bake pumpkin cheesecake cookies.

Recipe here.

A VW bus in a tree.

(Sorry, couldn't resist.)

Sunsets.

Photo taken by me

on Lake Michigan.

Happy Friday, my friends!
Have a lovely weekend!

It's all you can do . . . .

2011-10-20T07:37:00.000-04:00

....and that's okay.

Never

stop

trying.

2011-10-19T07:10:00.000-04:00

When you look in the mirror,

do you look for what you love most?

Do you smile?

Did you just ask,

"Is there any other reason to look into a mirror?"

(Smartie.)

Please tell your friends

to never look into a mirror without smiling!

-via Notes from The Universe

A playful mind . . . .

2011-10-18T08:47:00.002-04:00

As adults, we can get boxed in pretty easily. We lose spontaneity. We're always on a schedule, filling our free time with errands, and we forget to play. When was the last time you pulled out a box of crayons? You don't have to be Picasso to create your own masterpiece! You're already capable of being creative! You've just convinced yourself that creativity is something that other people have. Not true! Stop these imaginary mental images, and change your perspective. We are all inspired by something! Focus on what it is that inspires YOU, and simply allow your imagination to go where it wants. Allowing your mind to be at play is perhaps the most effective way to stimulate creative thinking. Give yourself permission to break the rules and realize that there isn't a "right" way when it comes to creativity. You might be surprised what comes to you.....a thought, an image, a word or color that will inspire your next move to a great idea, and recognize your ideas as worthy thoughts! Creativity adds excitement to our lives....a richness that is very fulfilling. Allow it into your life!

"Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way."

-Edward de Bono

Hello Monday!! . . . .

2011-10-17T08:46:00.003-04:00

Dear Monday,

Thank you for coming around the corner

when I need you most!

You always show up at the perfect time! My weekend was great, but I always need you to get me back on track. You inspire me!! You always give me the boost I need to get it together.

I love and appreciate you,

Kisses, Connie

I've got a busy start to my week, then will hop a plane to Miami for a meeting and a little R & R. My friends, I hope you find the determination, clarity, willpower, creativity , and strength that you need to make it through another week.

Here's to a beautiful week!

2011-10-14T10:54:00.000-04:00

girl: I love you.

boy: I love you too.

girl: Prove it. Scream it to the world.

boy: *whispers in ear* I love you.

girl: Why'd you whisper it to me?

boy: Because you are my world.

Happy Friday!

Have a wonderful weekend!

Do what it takes . . . .

2011-10-13T08:07:00.002-04:00

Time is relentless. It is the one resource that you cannot regenerate. The life you have now, the one you are living, is the only one that you have been awarded, at least in this world. And every moment in which you fail to take purposeful action is another moment wasted.

Life rewards action,

not intention.

The IRS doesn't care if you "meant" to pay your taxes; your child doesn't care that you "meant" to fix dinner; the people at the crosswalk are not at all comforted that you "meant" to stop. What matters, what determines the script of your life, is what you do. People who win take purposeful, meaningful action; they don't just think about it. To have what you want, you have to do what it takes.

Resolve now that you will take the risk, make the effort, and be persistent in the pursuit of your goals. Your life should be filled with victories and rewards. If you are losing, that means somebody else is winning, so you know that winning happens. It might as well happen to you, but it's not going to happen by accident. It will happen because you make it happen. It will happen because you know what you want and move toward it in a strategic, consistent, meaningful, purposeful manner. Take action, and insist on results.

"It is not good enough for things to be planned - they still have to be done; for the intention to become a reality, energy has to be launched into operation."

-Walt Kelly

From the book

Life Strategies

Friendship? Yes, please. . . .

2011-10-12T08:15:00.002-04:00

Somewhere there is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you today just the way you are. Yours is the name they love most. Your face has been memorized, by touch and by sight. Your birthday is a holiday. You are the last thing on their mind at night, and the first thing on their mind in the morning. You are the light of their life, and the most valuable player on their team. Someone keeps the lamp of friendship lit for you, or the home fires burning, or meets you at the airport in the middle of the night, or makes you laugh until your sides ache, or tells you they believe in you before you can even believe in yourself. What an honor to be loved and appreciated by someone who knows you so well. What a joy if he or she is your favorite person, too.

Somewhere there is someone who dreams of your smile, who finds in your presence that life is worthwhile. So when you are lonely, remember it's true, that somebody somewhere is thinking of you.

-Unknown

From the book 2

by Dan Zadra & Kobi Yamada

2011-10-11T07:52:00.000-04:00

2011-10-10T10:39:00.000-04:00

Happy Monday, my friends. How was your weekend? I spent mine at my cottage with a few girlfriends, hiking, shopping, having cocktails, wonderful dinners, and lots of laughs. It is truly one of my favorite places on Earth, and it is certainly my favorite time of year! Beautiful sunny days, crisp nights, and color galore. Oh, how I wish it lasted longer. As much as I love this place, I now have to say good-bye for the season. I will be cutting back my garden today....always sad for me, but I know that I am making room for all the new blooms that will pop through the ground next Spring. Do you have a special place in your life that makes you smile? It doesn't have to be a second home. It could be a chair on a porch, a bench in a park, or a rooftop with a view. I hope you have one. Because once you find it, it not only inspires you, but it nourishes your soul.

My favorite napping spot.

A sweet spot with a colorful view.

So long, sweet cottage....until next year.

"Autumn, the year's last, loveliest smile."

-William Cullen Bryant

2011-10-07T08:05:00.000-04:00

Happy Friday, my friends!

Have an awesome weekend!

xo, Connie

2011-10-06T07:12:00.000-04:00

2011-10-05T06:41:00.001-04:00

I am a big fan of StoryCorps. They are an independent nonprofit, whose mission is to provide Americans of all backgrounds and beliefs with the opportunity to record, share, and preserve the stories of their lives. They do this to remind us of our shared humanity, to strengthen and build the connections between people, teach the value of listening, and to weave into the fabric of our culture the understanding that every life matters. At the same time, they create an invaluable archive of American voices and wisdom for future generations.

Listen and watch the animated video below as Joshua Littman, a 12-year old boy with Asperger's syndrome, interviews his mother, Sarah. Joshua's unique questions and Sarah's loving, unguarded answers reveal a beautiful relationship that reminds us of the best--and the most challenging--parts of being a parent.

Record your own story by making your reservation here.

2011-10-04T08:00:00.000-04:00

Another wonderful experience. . . .

2011-10-03T10:24:00.001-04:00

It feels so good to be home! I've been traveling for the past 12 days and it was heaven to crawl into my own bed last night. Vacations are great, but there's nothing like the comfort of your own space!

Today I would like to share with you a wonderful experience that I had while I was gone. After an incredible 8 days in New York City, I traveled to a friends home in Virginia, just outside Washington D.C. To my surprise, he asked me to follow him into his garage, opened the door, handed me the key to one of his motorcycles and told me to get on. We weren't just going for a ride, he was going to TEACH ME HOW TO RIDE!! I jumped up and down like a little girl! I have a Vespa 250 scooter, so I've ridden, but c'mon......it's a scooter! There are no gears.... just the accelerator and the brake. This was the real thing, and this was something that I've wanted to do for a long time. When I was 18, I read the book "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" and I have never forgotten the descriptions in that book of what it is like to ride, and more importantly, what it teaches you about life. It was time I experienced a small portion of that! So there I was on the back roads of Virginia, experiencing the wonderful feelings that Robert M. Pirsig described in that book. He said, "You see things vacationing on a motorcycle in a way that is completely different from any other. In a car you're always in a compartment, and because you're used to it, you don't realize that through that car window everything you see is just more TV. You're a passive observer and it is all moving by you boringly in a frame. On a cycle the frame is gone. You're completely in contact with it all. You're in the scene, not just watching it anymore, and the sense of presence is overwhelming. That concrete whizzing by five inches below your foot is the real thing, the same stuff you walk on, it's right there, so blurred you can't focus on it, yet you can put your foot down and touch it anytime, and the whole thing, the whole experience, is never removed from immediate consciousness." He was right. I was in the scene. I thoroughly enjoyed my first ride, and even though I most likely won't be running out to buy a motorcycle, I was grateful to have experienced that sense of presence, not to mention another level of self-confidence that I couldn't have gotten without trying it myself. By the way, I now have a real sense of appreciation for motorcyclists. Be aware! Watch for them, and safe travels.

"Unless you're fond of hollering, you don't make great conversations on a running cycle. Instead, you spend your time being aware of things and meditating on them. On sights and sounds, on the mood of the weather and things remembered, on the machine and the countryside you're in, thinking about things at great leisure and length without being hurried and without feeling you're losing time."

-Robert M. Pirsig

2011-09-30T08:51:00.000-04:00

Happy Friday!

...and remember,

FUN IS GOOD!

Have some this weekend!

xo, Connie

2011-09-29T10:14:00.001-04:00

2011-09-28T08:46:00.000-04:00

Celebrate your differences . . . .

2011-09-27T06:33:00.000-04:00

I came across this sign while hiking the dune trails a few weeks ago, and I had to stop and share it with my husband. He was well ahead of me, so I had to call him back to read it. He had walked right past it! He's a very driven man, always walks with intention, so I don't believe he really thought he was missing anything. He focuses on the trail immediately ahead of him, concentrates on his "form", how he plants his feet, and he makes sure he's using his muscles in a way that when the hike is over, he can feel all the benefits of an hour well spent. I too, like to think of it as a great workout, but for the most part, I don't really hike like that. I'm slower than he is. I notice everything, and I stop to take photographs along the way, which puts me even further behind him. There really is no "right" way to hike, is there? We were both getting the most out of WHY we were there, which was to enjoy it---and we were! In our own way! And that's my point today.

When my husband read the sign, he smiled, and I think he felt a little guilty about not paying attention to all the beauty that was around him, but he continued on just as he had, focusing on all the physical benefits. He got exactly what he needed out of that hike. There is no "right" way! He was happy. And so was I. I too, got exactly what I wanted out of that hike---the physical benefits (at a slower pace), and the beauty.

"It's not our differences that divide us.

It is our inability to recognize, accept,

and celebrate those differences."

-Audre Lorde

Never too busy for this . . . .

2011-09-26T06:20:00.000-04:00

Happy Monday!

Make it a great week, my friends.

2011-09-23T07:13:00.001-04:00

Happy Friday, my friends.

Have a lovely weekend!

xo, Connie

Shhhhh . . . .

2011-09-22T07:54:00.001-04:00

...... give yourself one minute to

enjoy the beauty of silence.

Fun or Drudgery? . . . .

2011-09-21T08:21:00.007-04:00

Can I tell you something? I really do believe that living your dreams or following your passion, does not mean that you need to make HUGE changes in your life. There are so many ways to live a very contented life, and to be the happy person you deserve, just by enjoying what you're doing at the moment. All it takes is for you to live with intention, and to put your heart and soul into how you spend your day. Are you in an office setting, in your own little cubicle, and have no intention of leaving that job? Then I hope you don't feel a sense of dread when you step into that office. I hope you're making the most of your time there. I hope you have surrounded yourself with photo's of your loved ones and things that inspire you. And most importantly, I hope you're proud of what you do and the way you do it. If you're not happy in your job, but have no intention of leaving, then change your perception of the job! I guarantee if you are not happy doing what you're doing, then you are most likely not putting forth the best of your abilities. That's where the change needs to be made. I'm not saying you need to leave your job, I'm merely saying you need to approach it differently. When you walk in the door the next time, walk through as if it were your first day. Remember that day? You were excited and wanted to do the best job you could do. Approach it with enthusiasm and determination. Be the best you can be. Get psyched again, and give the best of YOU. No one can ask more of you than that! Bottom line, when you enjoy your job, you have more energy, more fun, and you look forward to Monday.

If, at this point, you still feel like you are going through the motions, if you're mentally exhausted, and no longer feel enthusiasm in how you are spending your day, then perhaps a change of pace is just what you need.

"Work is either fun or drudgery.

It depends on your attitude.

I like fun."

-Colleen C. Barrett

Consider the obstacles . . . .

2011-09-20T08:15:00.003-04:00

Why is it that we find it all too easy to immediately come to conclusions about another person before we understand their story? Everyone has a story, and until we are compassionate enough to take a moment to listen, to understand their obstacles, and to empathize, how can we ever appreciate what that person has had to overcome? We've all faced struggles that have shaped us into the person that we are today. We've learned lessons in ways that we would not choose. If we would just allow ourselves a moment of compassion, we can empathize in a way that will soften our hearts. We may even learn a lesson or two that will help US grow. Listen.....we are all human beings, and we are all seeking the same thing in life. We need food, shelter, and love, right? We crave attention, and recognition, and affection, and above all, happiness. So stop judging for one second, and remind yourself of these simple rules......Just like you, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life. Just like you, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life. Just like you, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair. Just like you, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs. And just like you, this person is learning about life.

"Compassion is sometimes the fatal capacity for feeling what it is like to live inside somebody else's skin. It is the knowledge that there can never really be any peace and joy for me until there is peace and joy finally for you too."

-Frederick Buechner

2011-09-19T09:08:00.000-04:00

No worries!

What you do today

can improve all your tomorrows!

YOU CAN DO IT!

I'm rooting for you!

2011-09-16T08:33:00.000-04:00

Children are a gift . . . .

2011-09-15T07:27:00.001-04:00

Each child is an opportunity, not a property. Each new life is a gift that you get for a borrowed amount of time. It is a beautiful chance for parents to guide and fill children with as much love, knowledge and inspiration as possible so they can be sent into the world as wise, self-trusting and responsible adults who know how to use their own intuition. These intuitive pathways encourage growth and personal power. Let your children know what a gift they are to this world.

It's not easy raising a child! We, as parents, don't get a manual when we give birth or adopt an infant. We learn to write our own script to navigate the waters of these new relationships. And as children mature, we are faced with many behavioral and emotional challenges such as defiance, lack of self-confidence, no motivation and failure to take responsibility. In order to understand these challenges, we can expand our own minds by looking at the way we were parented (understanding what was bad and expanding on what was good) and be aware of how to make an important shift to strengthen our families, respect our children and live with love for one another.

In the book Raising A Happy Spirit, by Julianna Lyddon, it talks about the unspoken connections that lie at the base of all relationships. Intuitive pathways will help parents recognize the fullness of each child's purpose. They are familiar staples of parenting but they aren't discussed often. Get the book, and you can read them in a new way with deeper meaning and substance.

Beauty from the Inside Out . . . .

2011-09-14T08:07:00.000-04:00

A happy spirit = beauty. It does! There isn't a person on earth who is not beautiful while he or she is smiling and experiencing unadulterated joy! True beauty happens from the inside out, and will attract others like a magnet. When you are connected to your own spirit, you know what nourishes you and what doesn't. There is nothing more unattractive than a woman who may be blessed with outer beauty but has an ugly attitude. If you took a woman who was frazzled, insecure, and unhappy, and taught her some tools to help her feel calm, happy, and peaceful, with a more lighthearted attitude, she too, becomes beautiful. What makes your spirit happy? Hanging out with those you love? A new haircut? Nature? Being grateful? Yoga? The perfect outfit? The mind, body and spirit are interrelated, so what happens to one impacts the other. Balance is key: Nourish the body, quiet the mind, and engage the spirit.

"Beauty is a light in the heart."

- Kahlil Gibran

Partial text from the book

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff for Women

by Kristine Carlson

Photo by Corrie Bond

Are you sabotaging your own goals? . . . .

2011-09-13T08:11:00.004-04:00

What are your habits saying about you? We all have good intentions when it comes to our goals, but how many times do we sabotage those goals with our own bad habits? We know what we want, right? We're anxious to change, but the truth is.....we are what we repeatedly do! So if we're repeating bad habits, those habits prevent us from succeeding. You have the power to enhance your life by letting go of repetitious habits that prevent you from moving forward. . . the ones that put us in a holding pattern, and prevent us from experiencing positive change. It takes will power and discipline to develop new habits. Once you discover what it is that you want in your life, look also for someone who lives that life, and emulate their habits. Use your will power to create those new habits. It's not easy at first, but the best way to break an old habit is to replace it with a new one. If you can do it consistently, you'll be on your way to living that life! Never lose site of your goals. You deserve to reach them just as much as the next person, but it's up to you! Step into a life of smarter, healthier choices, and become a perfect example of the person you wish to be!

"First we make our habits,

then our habits make us."

- Charles C. Noble

2011-09-12T07:07:00.000-04:00

The most beautiful curve

on a woman's body

is her smile.

One of the world's best and oldest questions . . . .

2011-09-09T10:38:00.002-04:00

What really makes us happy?

Giving? Getting? Something to do? Something to love? Something to hope for? That's just the big stuff! As most of us are beginning to realize, it isn't the big pleasures that bring the most happiness. It's making a big deal out of the little ones.

So, what's on your list? A glorious sunset? A bowl of soup on a chilly day? A kiss behind the ear? Breakfast in bed? A hug from a child? A few hours in a bookstore? A half-hour on the treadmill? Pasta with friends? A rooftop dinner? Receiving a love letter? Writing one? Getting an unexpected compliment? Giving one? A hike in the woods? Losing yourself in a good book? Meeting a deadline? Having your wish come true? Sharing the holidays with people you love?

Knowing it's Friday, and planning your weekend?

We all have our share of troubles and sadness, but we also get a shot at life's tiny delights, and the best part is, those tiny delights are everywhere and all around us.

Just think how happy you'd be

if you lost everything and everyone

you have right now...and then,

somehow got them back again.

-Kobi Yamada

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