I don't know about you, but I am one who doesn't do well by avoiding issues, conflict and problems. I need to confront issues as soon as possible for my own well being. Are you perfectly happy sweeping them under the rug, pretending they don't exist? Honestly, I can't deal with the dust it leaves behind. The more you avoid problems, the more dust collects, and I don't like dust. That dust causes anxiety and tension, and it's unhealthy. Dealing with issues as soon as possible will allow you to move on. To me, it is SO worth the discomfort to be able to put them behind you.
If you're having to confront an issue today, make a choice to deliberately start your sentence with "I" instead of "You". Keep the blame game and the aggression out of it. You'll only regret that later. State your case without attacking the other person, then be prepared to listen. It's only fair. This doesn't guarantee that you'll have a painless confrontation, because unfortunately, there will always be times when an issue can't be resolved. Sometimes we just have to agree to disagree. But more often than not, you'll find that it was a more positive experience than you may have expected. Chances are you may even enhance your relationship by developing a deeper connection.
"You can sweep all your problems under the rug,
but sooner or later
someone is gonna pick up the rug and shake it."
-Susan Gale
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