Showing posts with label Act of love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Act of love. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Children want limits . . . .

"You don't have to be the world's strongest man 
to earn the respect of a child or a teenager, 
but you have to be strong enough 
to stand your ground against an onslaught of resistance."

-S. Truett Cathy

Children all around us are growing up without strong positive guidance from their parents, who are busy, distracted, absent, or choose to be buddies instead of parents to their children. You see them in your neighborhood, your classroom, your troop, your team, or your family.

These children cannot build themselves into responsible adults. They cannot teach themselves respect, trust, generosity, or common sense. They need for you to teach them. They need for you to reach out to them in love - to love them into a sense of belonging. They need for you to be available to talk - to be a friend. They need your firm instruction. They need honest encouragement and to be reminded of their strengths and opportunities. 

How many families have you seen that are ruled by the child? By age five, some children already dictate to their parents what they will do. They know their parents would rather give in to their demands than deal with a tantrum. I've seen dozens of children through the years who never understood respect for authority. Their parents rarely enforced discipline at home until the children were completely out of control. Their inconsistent message only amplified the problem. Be so consistent with your discipline that you're boring! 

"Children want limits,
and they want to be able
to respect the adults
who set those limits."

From the book
It's Better To Build Boys Than Mend Men
-by S. Truett Cathy

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

End-of-the-day questions . . . .

Asking ourselves questions and answering them honestly is something we can all do to understand ourselves better, and to help us realize that we can do SOMETHING every day to make the world a better place. But sometimes we get all wrapped up in our own little world.....walking through our day with blinders on. It doesn't take a lot. Asking ourselves these simple questions can help bring awareness as to how we are spending our day. Are we doing what we can to be kind? To forgive? To try a little harder? Below is a quiz from Dr. Leo Buscaglia's book Born for Love that will help point out ways in which you can show more love to others. Remember, you can re-take this quiz any time. This is one quiz you can never fail!

Is anyone a little happier because I came along today?
Yes___ No___

Did I leave any concrete evidence of my kindness, any sign of my love?
Yes___ No___

Did I try to think of someone I know in a more positive light?
Yes___ No___

Did I help someone to feel joy, to laugh, or at least, to smile?
Yes___ No___

Have I attempted to remove a little of that rust that is corroding my relationships?
Yes___ No___

Have I gone through the day without fretting over what I don't have and celebrating the things I do have?
Yes___ No___

Have I forgiven others for being less than perfect?
Yes___ No___

Have I forgiven myself?
Yes___ No___

Have I learned something new about life, living or love?
Yes___ No___

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
-Leo F. Buscaglia

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Be someone's highlight . . . .

Shall we make a new rule? How about.....Always try to be a little kinder than is necessary. I promise, it's not that hard. Some people might respond to that saying, "I'm busy. I don't have time to go out of my way", or "It's just the toll booth operator.....I only have 10 seconds with the guy. What kind of difference can I make?" Well, for one, you can plan ahead. If you know you're going to be traveling, and passing through a toll booth, as you hand the guy your $1.25, hand him a package of life savers with a smile and tell him to enjoy. Or be kind to the guy behind you, and pay his way. Five minutes later when he catches up with you, you'll get a nice smile and a wave from him as he thanks you. Now there's a warm fuzzy for you.  There are so many ways in which you can be the highlight of someone's day. 
  • If you're headed to the grocery store, call your neighbor to see if they need anything.
  • Be extra generous with a tip when you've experience good service.
  • If you're making zucchini bread, make an extra batch and share it with someone.
  • Put a coin in an expired parking meter.
  • Buy donuts for your co-workers.


"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit."
-Albert Schweitzer

You're it!
Be someone's highlight today!

Thursday, July 22, 2010

What signals are you sending? . . . .

Imagine that all your actions, including the comments that you make, are like drops of water falling into a pond. The ripples they make represent the signals that you send out to the people around you. As the waves hit the bank they turn and come back toward you. Most of the time, by sending out goodness, we can expect goodness to come back to us. I understand that this doesn't happen 100% of the time. We will always encounter those who choose to keep their best behavior to themselves. But I have found that if you live your life this way, the rewards are much greater than you expect.

If our thoughts are dark and our view of life is bleak, only the dark and the bleak will find us. Make a point of focusing your mind on positive thoughts. View your life as full and rich. Learn to trust and love all that you have and all that you are. It is then that the waves of goodness will come splashing back and shower you with the warmth and love that you desire.

Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
-Mother Teresa

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Here's To You . . . .


From the book Here's To You
Photo via .la douleur exquise.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Tell someone . . . .


We all want and need praise, recognition, and acceptance. Actually, we can never get enough of it! We all have a psychological need to be respected and appreciated. We need affection to satisfy the need to belong. We want praise so we can feel admired, and we want recognition to satisfy our need for personal worth. We should make it a habit to give genuine praise to someone every day. I believe we should tell people how we feel about them while they are alive! . . . not wait until they have died, and then have to deliver a beautiful eulogy. Why wait? A compliment truly is a gift, and offering one with sincerity will always be a welcome boost to someone's day. The right words at the right time can motivate, comfort, validate & inspire. Let someone know how much you appreciate them!

Have I told you today how awesome you are?

Thursday, November 5, 2009

How much can the heart hold? . . . .


The love of partnerships
Photo via Google Images

The love of a child
Photo by Brooke Fasani

The love of friendships
Photo via Getty Images

The love of life
Photo via Google Images

The love of a pet
Photo by Antonio Cangiano via flickr

The love of God
Photo via Google Images

......and there's STILL room for more!

Thursday, October 29, 2009

It can turn a life around . . . .


"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which has the potential to turn a life around."
- Leo Buscalgia

Photo by Guildford Grace

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

With love . . . .


There's a little bit of everyone inside of you, and there's a little bit of you inside of all others. Humanity's greatest and most vile potentials lie within each of us. By understanding what motivates us to act kindly or with malice, we can begin asking questions about the behavior of others. And with understanding, we can begin loving - not their behavior, but their potential; not their decisions, but their journey. And with love, we can begin healing by example, showing kindness, compassion, and another way.
-From the book Choose Them Wisely by Mike Dooley
-Photo via One League Artists

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams . . .

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams . . .
Follow your heart

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