. . . . been in a situation where something you said didn't come out quite right? You didn't mean it the way it sounded, and more than likely it was just a minor slip-up. Well, unfortunately it can be easy to do, and we all know what a sinking feeling that is! It can send us in to a deep hole of embarrassment. Who was it that once said...I may have small feet, but they fit perfectly in my mouth! When you realize you've said something wrong, stop immediately, even if you're mid-sentence, and apologize. Don't make excuses. Own up to what happened and move on. The last thing you want is the feeling of having to avoid the other person the next time you see them at the other end of the grocery aisle.Saying you're sorry immediately will go a long way towards making a bad situation, better.
"The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug."
It was one year ago that I launched This Way To Joy, and began posting here, on this site. Over the weekend I perused my own blog, reading back over the older posts and asking myself what it is that keeps me posting, what it is that inspires me, and even thinking back to why I even started this. I realized that I have to give credit to my sister-in-law,Jenni, who recommended a very motivational book called Making Your Dreams Come True,by Marsha Wieder. This is the book that defined my personal dreams. I honestly wasn't even sure what my dreams were until I read this book. It was literally the roadmap that led me to This Way To Joy. The author states that your beliefs "either move you forward or hold you back," and I realized that I wanted to move forward with the belief that I knew I could lift spirits and encourage others to find their own joy, and I could do it by posting inspirational messages, quotes, and words of encouragement. Honestly, nothing makes me happier. So here I am, 315 posts later, revealing my intentions. I have to admit that my posts are intended just as much for me as they are for my reader. They act as my daily reminders to do whatever I can to be a better person. Many bloggers keep track of how many hits they receive each day, but I don't have a counter on my blog, so I have no idea how many people visit me. I'm pretty sure I prefer it that way. Most days I truly believe I am the only one reading it, which keeps me posting from my heart, and prevents me from obsessing about the numbers. So, to my readers.....if This Way To Joy brings you even a sliver of happiness, an ounce of joy, inspires or motivates you in any way, my dreams have been fulfilled.
I thank you,
P.S. I do love and appreciate your comments. They make MY day, lift MY spirits, and encourage me to keep posting, so please leave them as often as you like.
"To do something, however small, to make others happier and better, is the highest ambition, the most elevating hope, which can inspire a human being."
Got a question? About life? About work? About love? About your past, present or future? Very likely there are lots of great people in your life you can turn to for answers, but none know you like you know you! And none are as wise to the ways and the needs and the dreams and the desires that are your own as you are. Neither could another know of your greatest potentials nor of the promises life has in store for you. Ask yourself for the direction you seek and look for the answers in your feelings and intuitions. Listen, too, to your mind. The right way will feel good and make sense. Expect answers!
Who or what in your life is AWESOME? Think about it. Few things in life are truly awesome. The definition of the word means "extremely impressive or daunting." Although it gets thrown around too casually in today's culture, once in a while it applies so beautifully to things like:
a breathtaking sunset
music so moving it makes you cry
the rush of love at first sight
that initial glimpse of your newborn baby
a beautiful, starry night
the kindness of a true friend
Make someone's day. Tell them...."you are a great friend - and your kindness is awesome! For that, I thank you."
. . . . and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking."
"God gave you two ears and one mouth" . . . . what does that tell you? I'm thinking that if more people really understood what it means to listen, it could change their life. It could certainly change their relationships. Most of us with siblings grew up simply trying to be heard. We talked over each other. We certainly talked louder. It's sad to say, but most of the time it was true. The squeaky wheel got the grease, right? So at what point did you learn to listen? More than likely you met someone who really listened to you, which made you take notice. You realized what it meant to be heard. Someone was paying attention!
Are you a listener that participates in the conversation or are you just waiting for the other person to stop talking so you can speak? First, you must quiet the chatter in your mind, and engage yourself. If you are constantly thinking about what you are about to say, you surely cannot hear what the other person is talking about. Pay attention to the words and feelings that are being expressed to you. It is then that you will begin to really hear what the other person is trying to convey. Hopefully, at this point you will begin to feel the connection.
I recently read an article that said, 'once the other person realizes that you actually heard what they said, they will most likely relax, share and trust you'. I love that because that's when true communication begins. That's when the real conversations take place. Learning how to truly listen will be the best gift you ever give to yourself and to those you love. Listening with your heart is truly invaluable.
"Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand."
Hi! I'm Connie. Thank you for visiting my blog. I am using this space to share words of encouragement, lift spirits, inspire others, and share beautiful photography. It is my hope that I can make a difference in the lives of others, by encouraging them to make the most of theirs.
"If you are not spending all of your waking life in discontent, worry, anxiety, depression, despair, or consumed by other negative states; if you are able to enjoy simple things like listening to the sound of the rain or the wind; if you can see the beauty of clouds moving across the sky or be alone at times without feeling lonely or needing the mental stimulus of entertainment; if you find yourself treating a complete stranger with heartfelt kindness without wanting anything from him or her . . . it means that a space has opened up, no matter how briefly, of alive peace, even though it may be subtle. . . . ."
"So when you appreciate something simple - a sound, a sight, a touch - when you see beauty, when you feel loving kindness toward another, sense the inner spaciousness that is the source and background to that experience. . . . ."
"Be still. Look. Listen. Be present."
So many books...so little time
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
A Whole New Mind by Daniel Pink
Be by Kobi Yamada
Believe by Dan Zadra & Kobi Yamada
Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
Infinite Possibilities by Mike Dooley
Live Good by Kobi Yamada
Making Your Dreams Come True by Marsha Weider
Talking Like The Rain - a children's book of poetry - Illustrated by Jane Dyer
The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz
The Little Things by Kobi Yamada
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
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