We've all heard this one, right?......"When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself." Unfortunately, there will always be times when other people and/or circumstances contribute to our problems, but it is up to us to OWN the problem, rise to the occasion, and take responsibility for our own happiness. When something doesn't meet our expectations, many of us operate with the assumption, "When in doubt, it must be someone else's fault." Stop playing the "blame game" and create the life you want for yourself. When you stop blaming others for anything and everything in your life, it doesn't mean that you don't hold people accountable for their actions, but that you hold yourself accountable for your own happiness, and especially for your reactions to other people and the circumstances around you. When the house is a mess, rather than assuming you're the only person doing your part, clean it up! When you're over budget, figure out where you can spend less money. Most important, when you're unhappy, remind yourself that only you can make yourself happy. Blaming others takes an enormous amount of mental energy. It's a "drag-me-down" mindset that creates stress and disease. Blaming makes you feel powerless over your own life because your happiness depends on the actions and behavior of others, which you cannot control. When it's all said and done, we are the reason for our successes and failures. It's time for us to take responsibility for our own life. When you stop blaming others, you will regain your sense of personal power. You will see yourself as a choice maker. Life is a great deal more fun and much easier to manage when we stop blaming others.
"A man may fall many times,
but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him."
-Elmer G. Letterman